I've been so focused on my family that I was starting to loose sight of myself. My husband. My children. Homeschooling. My other home – “the kitchen” was consuming me. Now of course these are my responsibilities, my dedication and my journey but it's not my personal path in which I believe every one should have for themselves in order to be a well balanced happy individual. My time is limited having a sick husband however I still manage to find the time to not only write, but to read, to get outdoors (where I feel the best therapy is) and I have continued with pole fitness which brings me back on that wagon of maintaining a healthier lifestyle. Now I know I have written about this before although I wanted to remind you and any new followers that you should purchase, “You are a badass” I highly recommend this book for every one. The Author Jen Sincero is a success coach that now travels the world helping others transform their lives. I love how this book is not only an easy read, it's a book that you can carry around and resource back too, to remind us what we sometimes forget when we need it! A bit of insight inside “You are a badass” is in Part 1: How you got this way. Part 2: How to embrace your inner badass. Part 3: How to tap into the mother-lode. Part 4: How to get over your B.S. Already. Part 5: How to kick some ass. For me, I don't have the time to procrastinate. I have decided that procrastination is being removed from my vocabulary. In order to personally grow and make changes in our lives, it's only up to us as an individual being proactive. So once again I decided to make some changes for myself. One: no more referring us as an “adoptive family” We are just a family living a big life. I have sons, daughters, dogs, a husband and a granddaughter. Simple. Two: yes I have a sick compromised husband however it's not going to consume nor halt our daily living. Our future is two feet on the ground every morning, taking one day at a time moving forward. Three: me, myself and I always has room for growth. I choose to continue to grow, change and be challenged. Hence why I started pole fitness. I may have many “pole kisses” that are known as bruises however personal achievements comes with practice, hardwork and dedication. Dedication is a trait I definitely have. So I added some responsibility and dedication for my personal well being, which is not loosing me as an individual in the midst of raising and looking after my big family. I have recently changed my title of my blog to “Live Big” It's not about having tons of children, three dogs too many, it's about living. Living as big as you can stretch yourself. After all, life is too short to waste. “Live Big” to me means too not only live, it's to love big, unconditionally love big, make a difference somehow every day. It means to stop procrastinating, stop judging and experience life while you can. That's what I want to write about, that's what I preach to my children, that's what I want my family to be about..... not a label. We were brought together for a reason, and I sense that reason is to challenge our odds, to accept individual identity and to live as big as we physically and mentally can! So I haven't been on my head since I was a child, now I am. Who would of known I could be capable of doing a handstand on a pole? Who would of known our family would have grown as large as it has, or how we CAN carry on against all odds!? That's all about living big. It's a cognitive conditioning that every one should start working towards because life wasn't given to us to waste. To conclude, my thoughts today is to practice reconditioning our brains, and those thoughts that potentially hinder us, rewire and start living BIG! Beyond what we think our potential is while remaining positive ~ Me.
Wednesday, October 19, 2016
Wednesday, October 5, 2016
In the midst of our forever changing, challenging and busy life I decided to do something for me. I have been contemplating this for weeks. Finally I decided to stop procrastinating and I just went for it! I will say I landed on the floor more then ten times! People might suggest that I'm going through a midlife crisis and actually they could be right! I'm definitely perimenopausal! Anyhow there is worst things I can be doing then landing on the floor! I have always been the type to spread my wings, do things that are different and challenging in one form or another. Probably why I have sixteen children and three dogs! For me, I always need to be busy. I feel my best when my day has been productive. I also believe if there's anything that scares us, or we're afraid because it's out of the "normal" or physically it just can't be manageable in our own minds, we need to open those four walls and somehow build an octagon. Challenging ourselves is up there with changing ourselves - it takes dedication, determination and believing. I've always been afraid of failure. However if you haven't failed, you haven't even tried. Lately I have been noticing that my nights are a continuation of my day if I'm not switching it up. I'm not normally a television watcher except for Survivor, and I don't normally go out anywhere unless it's to an occasional movie. I started feeling a little lost. So I joined and had my first night at Pole Sisters. Pole fitness and dancing. It's as hard as it looks and it challenges me in every area. Including being under dressed, having bare feet, swinging and climbing up and around a pole with other woman. Becoming dizzy. And yes, falling on the floor over and over again. It's amazingly fun! After my first night I could barely function physically for two days BUT I'm ready to return! I thought I would share because as crazy as you might think I am, if I can do this, you can do whatever is calling out to you! Just keep telling yourself that you're not going to procrastinate anymore, you are not going to doubt yourself, that you can do anything and you can make the time to do it. This is how we all become who we are and this is not only something for ourselves, it shows our children who we are too, and that's not just a parent, that we're individuals and individuals teaching our children to reach for those stars and that anything is possible. For me, I see stars when I hit the floor but that soon shall pass too! Whatever it is - go after it! If I can, you can!
I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear. Nelson Mandela